I have been having menopause symptoms since I was about 42 years old. I'm now 44 and I feel like I'm going off my head with all the changes going on in my life. My GP has now referred me to gynocology, which I am very glad about. I hate the way that I am so unhappy about my life. I have tried herbal remedies and some prescribed medications but nothing seems to work. Will this change at some point as it is making my life a misery.

Hormonal changes in the menopause can affect us both physically and emotionally and some women do find it is a time for reflecting on their life.

It is a difficult time, especially if we want to change but are unable to do so because of circumstances. It can be very frustrating and painful!

It is good that you are having things looked into, sometimes severe hormonal changes in the menopause can affect our mood dramatically and some kind of hormonal medication may be needed.

I know many women  don't like the idea of HRT but sometimes it is necessary for a while until the hormones settle down.

In the meantime, you may find a good female multi-vitamin with extra magnesium helpful, (magnesium is vital for the menopause and is needed for mood, relaxation and sleep!).

The menopause puts tremendous strain on the body generally and supporting it in anyway you can will have a positive effect.

Daily relaxation is also very important, studies have shown that it can reduce menopause symptoms very quickly, so make 30 minutes of 'me-time' a day a priority.

Eileen Durward